Minneapolis Under Siege

Image from this morning’s MN Star Tribune…

We woke up this morning to a city that is holding its breath. 

We’ve been here before and have become practiced at pulling in, watching carefully, responding with strength and resilience while holding on to the certain knowledge that we’re in the midst of another new level of insanity in this community we call home. 

This time is different. It’s not just a few bad actors with guns who violated their oath to serve and protect, and then lied about what had taken place when a man died, literally, under their knee. At that time - a brave young teenager provided the video proof that what was initially reported - “died of a heart attack” - was much different than the evidence of a 9 minute choking knee on the neck.

Today it’s roving gangs of thugs dressed up in masks and jackets carrying large artillery and lethal weapons grabbing anyone on the streets who doesn’t look like “us”. That may sound judgemental - and it is.

When cars turn up at community day care centers early in the morning to grab anyone entering or dropping off who is speaking Spanish - no questions, no warrants, just grabbing - then yes, that’s thuggery.

When large groups of ICE show up outside public schools as parents are picking up their kids, then bash in windows when a woman refuses to open her car door before being hauled out and taken, leaving a car running near the school, that’s thuggery. 

And when an ICE agent shoots through a car window at a car driving away,...well, the multiple videos produced by observant citizens will provide the proof that this agent was at no risk regardless of those trying to spin the story they want you to believe. 37-year-old Renee Nicole Good is dead because of thuggery. 

On Monday, Kristi Noem was posing for cameras in the Twin Cities - proudly talking about taking hardened criminals off the streets. Hardened criminals working at day care centers who are credentialed to care for babies? Hardened criminals driving their kids to school being ripped from cars? 

No warrants, no questions asked - just snatching people, taking them to “detention” in unknown locations, many to be released hours later when it is shown that indeed they are U.S. citizens going about their daily lives. 

This isn’t a rational response to a true threat to this country, is it? This is about causing chaos, terrorizing anyone who speaks languages beyond English, who has melanin in their skin, or who has fewer resources to fight back. 

So today, Minneapolis public schools are closed to reduce the numbers of “soft targets” for the ICE thugs. And people appear to be staying home as well. 

The community trauma is real. The fury, the fear, the outrage, the sadness - all of this is real right now. 

I’m both outraged and embarrassed that this is my country today. When did our nation’s values and mores fall so far that we would support the weaponization of bully culture targeted at daycare centers for our nation’s babies? How can any of us stand by as this type of actual evil is taking place in our neighborhoods?

I recognize the importance for our community to avoid reacting with the full righteous indignation this situation seems to call for. A truly righteous response would invite more military presence and a call for martial law in Minnesota. Who knows? We might even incite a “Venezuela” response from this administration with paratroopers dropping in to remove elected officials.

For now? We’re telling our friends and family to stay vigilant. Write to every person in elected office who is charged with representing you to let them know - “this isn’t the country we know any more, so stand up, speak up, and tell this administration to follow the constitution with its entire bill of rights.” And above all - be careful out there.

Always Remember...

Our Koppel Family Heritage Tour in Sopron, Hungary in 2009 with our recently departed Aunt Vera in sun glasses behind the Koppel monument…standing next to our other Aunt Vera in hat and white t-shirt.

Every now and again I see a movie that stays with me, making its point long after the lights come up. One that grounds me in today’s “now” with a whole new perspective.

The soon-be-released film, Nuremberg, is one of those movies. 

This week, I saw a premiere of that powerful and important new film. It’s based on a book written by local friend, Jack El Hai. His book, The Nazi and the Psychiatrist, focuses on the interactions of Hermann Goring and psychiatrist Douglas Kelley, hired by the US military to determine whether members of the former Nazi high command were fit to stand trial. 

Not an easy film to watch - but a compelling reminder of a history we don’t want to forget or repeat. 

The film reminds us that prior to that post WWII trial, there had never been an international court established to bring the leaders of any country to account for crimes against humanity. That military tribunal made up of the four Allied powers (U.S., French, British, and Soviet Union) established a framework for holding the leaders of aggressor countries accountable for the havoc wreaked on innocent families and communities. 

Russell Crowe plays a bone-chilling Goring and Rami Malek is the psychiatrist Kelley, whose relationship to his “patients” was frequently blurred between professional and personal. 

The timing of this film is powerful personally as well. 

Our family recently lost the last of our relatives who survived the Second World War in Europe with the death of Aunt Vera earlier this month. 

Vera was our particularly spunky Aunt, who survived the war in Hungary, then escaped with her mother during the brief 1956 Hungarian Uprising against the strictures of Soviet Union rule.  

Vera was the youngest of the Koppel aunts, the bonus matriarchy I inherited when I married Jacques. She was married to Uncle Andre, the youngest of the five surviving Koppel siblings. Uncle Andre survived Auschwitz with many of the well-documented physical and mental health issues of survivors. And he was always kind and wonderful to us. 

Before the war, there were ten Koppel children of that generation. Two got out of Europe before they were taken to concentration camps and three survived the camps.  The Koppel men all married - or remarried - after the war. Uncle Konchi lost his family in the camps, but met and married Aunt Fifi in the displaced persons camps. Uncle Rudy married our other Aunt Vera and immigrated to Canada. Uncle Alex married Aunt Pearl, the only American of the group. There was Aunt Helen, Aunt Greta, and Aunt Mimi, who was Oskar Schindler’s actual secretary who produced the famous list. 

Vera was the first of the Koppel Aunt matriarchy that I met nearly forty-five years ago. I never had to wonder what Aunt Vera thought about anything - she told me whatever was on her mind whenever we got together. That’s one of the many things I loved about her. 

Her strong opinions were balanced by an open mind and deep caring for her family. She would listen to a good argument, think a bit, and could change her mind. 

I traveled to Hungary with Vera and Andre two times. The first was in the early 1980s, when Andre wanted to return to his home place in Sopron with his son Robert. We were invited to join them, but Jacques was just starting a new position and unable to go. So I went. 

As someone born and raised in Ohio, I was surprised with Vera’s caution about candid conversations inside hotel rooms. She was convinced that the secret police had bugs in place and would arrest her for having escaped thirty years earlier. I didn’t understand the depth of that fear then. I do now. 

By the time we returned in 2009 for the well planned Koppel Family Heritage Tour, organized by Vera and her granddaughter Rebecca, some of those fears had abated. She led a group of 21 Koppels - nieces, nephews, great nieces and nephews, and cousins - to Budapest and Sopron where we saw the remains of thriving Jewish communities that were no more. And learned the human stories of what had been. 

Nuremberg, the film, brought back so many memories from that trip - of the relatives that survived and those who didn’t. And of our fun and feisty Aunt Vera who was the last of the survivors in our family. 

See the movie that opens November 7th. The final line, delivered by the U.S. prosecutor is prescient - “We are able to do away with domestic tyranny only when we make all men answerable to the law…so that it can never happen again.” 
This is a good time to remember what humans are capable of becoming when any one man is worshipped above all others or above the rule of law designed to contain the worst of human tendencies.  

Becoming An Ancestor...

Photo of my ancestors - Grandfather Alleshouse in upper left of last row, next to Great Uncle Sam Schauweker, and my Great Grandmother Lucinda.

As I was picking at some gunk in the bottom of the slow cooker, it hit me - I’m just like my mom - the woman obsessed over the ditzely details of cleaning the kitchen while forgetting to turn on or off the oven for the casserole. 

It can be startling to recognize one's mother in the mannerisms of one’s self. Particularly those that are clearly the result of nurture versus nature.

It’s something I’ve been thinking a lot about since last week when our Rabbi launched the Days of Awe with a sermon on becoming an ancestor that elicits good memories. This is the period of days when we are to reflect on our behaviors over the year past, repent for harm or hurts we’ve caused, and remember our ancestors and their impact on our lives. 

I consider myself  lucky with the array of ancestors I can count. My father’s family arrived in this country in the late 1700s, with my Great-Great-Great Grandfather Frederick appearing in the first U.S. Census of 1790 in Pennsylvania. His son Ludwig, or Lewis, moved his family to the frontier of Ohio in 1818. 

This family history was all meticulously documented by my Uncle Paul, Dad’s youngest brother. It was his wife - Aunt Marge - who provided the critical nudge for him to compile a remarkably rich history of our family in this country. Thanks to Uncle Paul, we have tales of the reputation of our Great Great Grandmother Mary Conrad and her colorful personality featuring clay pipes smoked in the garden. 

I know my Alleshouse ancestors as “gentlemen farmers”, engaged with their church community, musically gifted, with creative arts talents we inherited in the form of beautiful quilts stitched by my grandmother. I knew my grandfather as a quiet, thoughtful soul who had a way with bees, resulting in luscious honeycombs of honey on his dining room table. 

I know less about my Blue ancestors - other than they had family above and below the Mason-Dixon line during the Civil War, making for awkward family reunions for the next hundred years. 

Harvesting a red tomato in Minneapolis today takes me back 60 plus years to Grandma’s large garden behind her house in Deshler, Ohio, as she handed me one of her prize picks with a gentle, “Try this, Mary Margaret”. I’ll chase the flavor of those warm fresh tomatoes as long as I live. 

My birth family also landed in this nation as it was being born, ending up in Eastern Tennessee. My new-found family tells stories of Grandpa Arnold’s talents making moonshine as a way to pay the taxes on their extensive properties, before tragedy took Grandma. That led him to the mountains of West Virginia where he could earn enough to feed his five children in the coal mines. 

Apparently my birth mother wasn’t interested in remaining in Welch, as she hightailed it to Columbus, Ohio when she learned she was pregnant. There she gave birth to me, her only child, promptly found a job, got an education, married, and never told a soul of my existence. 

I certainly don’t blame her for that, as the 1950s were a rather punitive period for unwed mothers. 

My parents, on the other hand, were thrilled to finally have their baby after years of trying. I went home from the hospital, lying on a blanket in the backseat of my parents’ car with my father driving so slowly that my mother remarked on it to the day she died. 

All of this leads to the challenge our Rabbi posed in his sermon. What kind of ancestor do we want to be to those who come after us? How will we be remembered? 

I have a few more days until Yom Kippur closes out, and the allegorical Book of Life is slammed shut for the year. So as the pace of current events swirl around us at dizzying speeds, I find myself wanting to pick at small drippings on the inner base of the slow cooker while I ponder the stories I hope to leave with our children and their children. 

Again...

Neighbor Steven Mosborg captures the moment, as usual

The seasonal shift to fall up here is heralded by the start of the Minnesota State Fair. Local media set up shop on the fairgrounds with goofy contests; daughters of dairy farmers sit in a cooler to have their heads carved out of 90 pound blocks of butter; and, farm animals and crops compete for ribbons. 

This year’s launch was extra exciting because friend and scone baker extraordinaire Jenny won a blue ribbon for her entry of cinnamon swirl scones…as well as the sweepstakes award for the entire category. 

As the Fair wends on, we know we’re approaching the deadline to prepare for the school year to start. This year, I was excited for a batch of our second generation friends - the children of close friends who’ve become our friends as well - who are sending their first borns off to kindergarten. Just imagining the excitement of Alma and Ester, of Zeke and Shea, of Hadar and the younger siblings moving up in their pre-school classes was heart warming.

If you’re good at math, it’s clear these kindergartners were born during the early parts of the pandemic. Those scary times meant new moms delivered with only medical personnel and secluded from visits from close family. The grandparents of these dearly cherished babies didn’t have the opportunity to hold those brand new babies until new parents were comfortable with whatever protocols were available. Masks? Gloves? Disinfectants?  

And here we are again. These parents are sending off those cherished five year olds in another horrifyingly scary environment. 

Well documented data tells us this country of ours is the riskiest place on the globe for children attending school. And still, in this northern state of optimism despite all evidence otherwise, we persist in believing it can’t happen here. 

It can. And it did. 

And now we’re experiencing community trauma and a perpetual state of grief, on the verge of tears as we learn stories of the horror that unfolded two miles from here two days ago. 

The 23 year old murderer bragged in online postings that it was so very easy to buy any guns desired. 

We can change that. We must change that. 

A Fartshumper Summer

What summer in Minneapolis has looked like…

Having lived half my life on the North Coast here in Minnesota, I’ve come to appreciate the Scandinavian heritage that permeates the culture. These are stoic straightforward upright no nonsense sorts that recognize we all benefit from working together to create a better community. 

Since they originate from Viking stock in bitterly cold climates where daylight is scarce for a portion of the year, summer is a season to celebrate. Gardens bloom under great thought and tending. The wealth of lakes are filled with kayakers and swimmers. And all levels of government go to work on projects to repair and replace aging infrastructure so we don’t have to suffer the embarrassment - and pain - of another bridge collapse in the future.

This summer has been remarkably extraordinary with the range of projects affecting The Cities. When residents began complaining about the number of projects, there were protestations from various city, county, and state departments saying the number of projects was the same as always…until one started adding all those projects together to realize that perhaps each of those projects had multiple parts, and oops! It may be truly impossible to get from the West side of The Cities to the East side of The Cities on a vast number of previously passable roads.

And that’s where the fartshumpers come in.

By the beginning of May, our otherwise lovely neighborhood began sprouting pipes that crisscrossed streets and sidewalks to provide water to households while aged pipes were being lined - oh, and while they were at it, fiber optic cable was strung. When PVC pipes go across a street, they are covered with a mound of gravely dirt so cars don’t break them, which makes sense. Until you drive over the first one believing it to be a normal “bump” and your car gives a “wha-hoo-ha rump” sound it’s hard to forget. 

The word for speed bump in Norwegian is Fartshumper - and that’s exactly what this summer has been. Filled with fartshumper speed bumps that make driving perilous and slow. Never before in our experience has the knowledge that summer will come to an end been so curiously welcome up here.

What the physical fartshumpers have provided us residents of Linden Hills are a series of lessons to manage the psychological fartshumpers we’re experiencing in the country. 

I’ve learned that cutting down exposure to the incessant string of fartshumpers in the news is soothing. I’ve learned that taking it slow and carefully can reduce the impact of the shocks resulting from the tariff, no tariff, tariff again game show. 

And I’ve learned to pivot in my meal preparations. Egg prices have settled down now that bird flu has abated - thank you, science and research. But the impact of climate change and a shortage of immigrants to harvest crops is having an impact on other commodities. Coffee prices? Yikes! We’re cutting back on meat and learning great recipes for beans for protein. And chocolate is a luxury. Even Costco discontinued its chocolate chips with rising costs - so ginger cookies it is! 

At least the word is fun to say and can elicit a smile amidst the insanity of the fartshumpers coming our way for the foreseeable future…stay sane, friends.

Marking a Threshold

…not today’s weather, just thinking ahead!

I’m finally finishing up this post in honor of my friend Sally’s birthday today - as we Mid-Century Modern Babes share a birth year. Actually more Americans are mid-Century moderns than any other batch of people, so there are a number of us achieving a new decade in the next year or so. 

I’ve always believed that new decade birthdays signal something special. Sure - it’s a time to pause and reflect on the past decade, while imagining where the new decade will take us. For me, the reflection of the past half decade is one I will skip. No need to dwell on that era of Orthopedic Challenges. 

But imagining a new decade full of promise and potential? I’m all in. 

I have a peer who successfully recovered from a serious health threat and has dedicated himself to his love of travel to faraway places - picking a continent or country for an extended exploration off any sort of beaten path. 

Another is feeding his love of photography by going on photographic “safaris” to capture humans in their native habitats of New York, Paris, Rome, or Istanbul. 

I’ve always believed the start of a new decade requires excellent celebrations at least once a month. So I will ensure there is one spectacularly fun event or gathering scheduled from November 2025 to November 2026.

And since November 2026 is an important month for our country, I’ll ensure a number of those gatherings are in the company of thousands of others deploying our constitutional rights of peaceful assembly to speak up. Still working on my personal favorite sign though, so appreciate your thoughts on that. 

How we celebrate our shared “achievements” of acquiring this well-seasoned, hard-earned perspective on life purely by surviving this one wild journey has shifted for many of us. At 50, I wanted a grand party with a DJ and lots of friends from all walks of life. At 60, it was a house party billed as a “welcome back from California” - so the cake was a surprise for everyone. 

This year, however, is different. Interrupted mobility can do that to one. Sure - I’ll gather with family and friends and throw in some travel as well. 

But this year, I’m taking the advice of a dear childhood friend who shares my birth year. My friend Anita is asking all who know her to forego gifts to her, and instead to give a gift of kindness or generosity beyond the normal. She does have a raft of kind and generous friends - so the impact of extra generous kindness should be felt by many. 

Anita has a fulsome list of ideas - from calling old friends or teachers to tell them about their impact on your life to baking cookies for neighbors just to let them know you’re thinking of them. It’s all about being present in and for the lives of others - listening to stories, sharing a meal or tea.

Her birthday ask made me think of the impact we Mid-Century Modern Boomers could have if we spread Anita’s actions to all our peers. Just imagine what could happen if an idea like that went viral.

We Struggle for Hope

Early June 14th - preparing to celebrate our Big Beautiful Multicultural Democracy…

Last weekend began well. We joined dear friends at the annual Humphrey-Mondale dinner and were inspired by the stories we heard of those committed to public service who worked hard to move forward the interests of the constituencies they served. 

Both my husband and I spent parts of our working lives walking the halls of the Capitol building in St. Paul, so we saw some old familiar faces in the room. I pointed out one State Senator, remarking he hadn’t aged at all. He was hugging a younger female colleague, and when she turned around, my husband asked who she was. 

“Oh, that’s Melissa Hortman,” I said. “She was the House Speaker who this session is sharing leadership with her Republican colleague in a remarkable show of collaboration.”

I knew Melissa because I had the privilege of moderating a webinar she delivered to the University of Minnesota’s retirees last year. She had taken time from the start of the legislative session to speak with our group of old faculty, staff, and administrators who remain interested and engaged in civic affairs. 

She was remarkable with her responses to the pertinent - and some impertinent - questions of my colleagues. I shared how impressed I had been with her quiet competence, her balanced approach to compromise, and her clear concern for the community she served. She was measured and pragmatic. And also a strong advocate for fairness in civil rights and for comprehensive reproductive health care.

We left that evening feeling uplifted. 

I woke up to a list of tasks to complete as we prepared for our Clowns & Tacos Celebration of Our Big Beautiful Multicultural Democracy on our lawn. It was designed to offer space for those who were either too young or too old to go to the rallies planned throughout the greater Twin Cities area. The bouncy house was on its way, and my friendly Lorenzo asked if we wanted more chips for our Taco Bar. 

And then the news started popping up, as it now does on our ubiquitous devices. First a notice of shootings in the northern suburbs, and a note to shelter in place. We live in the southwest corner of the Cities, so I didn’t pay much mind. 

Then a text came from a friend saying Melissa had been shot, followed quickly by the next saying she and her husband had been murdered, that another senator had been shot, and the madman was still on the loose. 

Within the hour, notices were flying to avoid public gatherings as sporadic details emerged of the horror that had taken place overnight. 
Friends called and texted asking if we were still gathering. My gut said that we needed community more than ever, and our neighborhood gathering wasn’t on anyone’s list. So we moved forward.

Some stayed home. Some changed plans and boldly went to the Capitol in a show of surprising strength. Rallies continued, and we now know the madman was hiding and running and ended up in a field where trail cameras picked him up about 48 hours after his first bullets killed Melissa.

We had close to fifty people on the porch and on the lawn, reconnecting with old friends and meeting new neighbors. It was precisely what this country is all about - friendly people who may not agree about the latest road construction project, but who can discuss and resolve their concerns over a taco. 

The anxiety and horror of what was unfolding over the day was also on the lawn. Lots of discussion about what we do in the face of this madness. What can we do?

By midweek, one of the many legacies of the Hortmans - their children - provided an answer. You may have seen this - but it deserves repeating as often as possible.

“We are devastated and heartbroken at the loss of our parents, Melissa and Mark. They were the bright lights at the center of our lives, and we can’t believe they are gone. Their love for us was boundless. We miss them so much.

“We want everyone to know that we are both safe and with loved ones. We are grateful for the outpouring of love and support we have received, and we appreciate your respect for our family’s privacy as we grieve.

“Our family would like to thank law enforcement for their swift action that saved others and for the coordination across communities that led to the arrest of the man who murdered our parents. We especially would like to thank the officers who were first on the scene to our parents’ home and their heroic attempts to rescue our mom and dad.

“Our parents touched so many lives, and they leave behind an incredible legacy of dedication to their community that will live on in us, their friends, their colleagues and co-workers, and every single person who knew and loved them.

“If you would like to honor the memory of Mark and Melissa, please consider the following:

• Plant a tree

• Visit a local park and make use of their amenities, especially a bike trail.

• Pet a dog. A golden retriever is ideal, but any will do.

• Tell your loved ones a cheesy dad joke and laugh about it.

• Bake something - bread for Mark or a cake for Melissa, and share it with someone.

• Try a new hobby and enjoy learning something.

• Stand up for what you believe in, especially if that thing is justice and peace.

  “Hope and resilience are the enemy of fear. Our parents lived their lives with immense dedication to their fellow humans. This tragedy must become a moment for us to come together. Hold your loved ones a little closer. Love your neighbors. Treat each other with kindness and respect. The best way to honor our parents’ memory is to do something, whether big or small, to make our community just a little better for someone else.”

  And that, my friends, is a challenge to all of us. To push away the anger that breeds evil with a commitment to hold to resilient hope and care for our fellow humans.